Journey back home.

When a long weekend approaches, not expecting a traffic crunch in Bangalore is utter foolishness. 

            Buses form a long queue where in the cleaner of the bus calls the route numbers allotted to them. The whole of area is filled with lots of heavy honking, creating quite a messy atmosphere.

            Right below the metro station, where the buses have formed a queue, we can notice lots of young guys and girls with their attention deep into cellphones, sitting on platforms and waiting for bus. A pinch of glamour at the stressful nights is surely a pleasant thing to see.

         Few couples bidding good bye, another few of them helping their parents’ board the bus, lots of confusions among passengers and running a race to board the bus are quite a common scene around that time.

         Half asleep kids on the mother's shoulders having the least clue about what's happening around is one adorable thing to watch. Sadly, the mothers’ stress and irritation about the journey is only known to her.

         Amidst the chaos during the traffic jam, and all the ups and downs outside, there are many moments that catch our eyes and make us absorb new things which we had never experienced.

        Once all goodbyes are done and bus has been boarded the Silent journey begins with quite a lots of feeling in heart about heading back to one’s hometown ……. thus begins everyone’s Journey back home.

Life is too short to be busy.

           From the time I developed the fondness for reading, I was kind of fascinated to read random things, either from the books or blog posts which I would get when I would stroll over the internet. 

           While Living in Bangalore, I do get to hear from lots of them that they would be busy and occupied with all sort of work; pick any category of individuals the level of busyness would never come down.

We individuals have somewhat become like a ‘To do List’ now a days. Where in every weekend we plan our schedule regarding what should be done the next week.

Even to meet up some of our friends or a cousin we should actually check our schedule and plan the meeting accordingly.

         Supposedly even the meet up happens, then, there is a condition for that too, it should end as per the scheduled time as well, and else the items that are scheduled after the meet will get totally messed up.

           We have become so busy in here preparing the schedules and then following and implementing the prepared schedule that we somehow have forgotten the essence of doing things that are totally unscheduled.

It does feel as if we have lost that charm of ‘Expecting the unexpected’.

          There are lots and lots of things that are to be done out of your regular schedules. There are vibes inside us that would guide us to do certain things.

          Well, when a bright thought goes through you to write an article or do something that makes you feel really good, you can’t and never should say to yourself that ‘as of now I am busy, I will schedule that when I find time to do my schedule’

Life is too short to be busy

And yes, not everything that you need to do should be on the schedule. Unscheduled things surely give its own share of happiness.

The art of Prioritizing the right things.

This time I would like to narrate a story that was heard in my class.

               A guy had texted my sir saying the following: There were 3 of them working in a firm, him, a girl and a guy who is her good friend. 

           The girl proposed him; they fell in love and were in relationships. For quite some time ... eventually as time passed, she distanced from him for some reasons and used to hide things from him and get closer to that good friend. Two days before CA final exam of that guy. She dumped him and they broke up. Obviously that guy was in total dilemma over this and because of this he didn't clear his exams and flunked quite a few time 

                 The thing to get conveyed is, any sensible person wouldn't take such decisions of dumping when a priority item or major and important task to that person is coming near and the thing to learn is. Yes! Relationships are awesome, when? Only when the other one help you and support you to achieve the purpose of life ... not just hurt or be a negative impact on you.

The second story of the post is as below

              There was one guy, from Gujarat who actually is my sir’s friend. He was from quite low background, i.e his dad was earning around six thousand rupees a month by working in a garment shop, His father did everything for making his son study. The dad was going on bus, but let the guy use 2wheeler for his son, the money for the studies of the guy came as a loan from the cloth shop owner where the dad worked. 

This is a typical lower middle class family’s story, so it’s pretty evident that the guy had to pass all the exams.

            The expectations were quite high on the guy, which is quite obvious, the thing is he fell in love with a girl of basically other caste and as he was quite orthodox family, it was like quite more of compulsion on the family part that he shouldn’t do the inter caste marriage, the actual issue of his love came to light to the parents at around 3 to 4 months ago when the guy had to give his final exams of CA when one of the guy’s relative had seen the guy with the girl.

                  Sir was one among his friends who was called to his home and this was things he witnessed, the mom of the guy suddenly declared she would commit suicide if the guy marries that other caste girl, another thing was by his sister who said she would take the parents and he needn’t do anything, somehow sir and other friends consoled for like 4 or 5 hours and brought peace in there.

               The problem was from the next day, the guy wasn’t able to see his moms face thinking that for this small issue his mom does these things and the mom couldn’t even see sons face because even after doing so much for the son, he isn’t living their expectations

             All this took place when the guy had just few months for giving his exam, the good thing was everyone in the family understood that if he was in home, he would neither pass nor have peace so his mom then approached my sir and their friend ... and said please take that guy with them at apartment where my sir was staying. For 3 full months, sir and his friends were given strict instructions that anyone would accompany that guy wherever he goes 3 months passed, for whole of the time the friends studied with full dedication in between, as my sir had some issues with eyes, and had to put up some drops, he would go to guy and after drops he had to shut his eyes and sleep for 10 mines wherein sir would constantly say to that guy that you have to pass this exam, the purpose of you is to lead a decent life, and he had to be well settled and so on. 

Lots of positive words, 3 times a day for 3 months

The exam days came, all gave exams, all cleared.

            Currently the guy is earning very well. leading a good life,  living in a joint family with parents, and is ...... still married to the same girl!! That he had liked.

The things that I was conveyed and that I wanted to convey through these stories are

1) There is no harm in being in relationship, but the relationship should have only and only positive effect on us.

2) Though we may have small fights now, it would obviously lead to bigger one if we are with the wrong person.

3) Distractions are very common thing! But going out of the track where in we forget our purpose in life, is a bad things, be with them who would motivate us to fulfill our purpose in life and not who would waste our meaning of life.

           Supposedly in first small story, the girl had waited for few weeks, and then dumped the guy, he would at least had cleared his exams and had settled!! Now he is neither having good paying job nor the girl because of selecting and prioritizing wrong thing in his life.

            Similarly in second longer story, had the guy not worked in the last 3 months of his time towards exams and just grumbled and failed?? He would obviously be blaming his mom, his girlfriend and there would had been so much negativity towards him,

Just by changing the priority he really became something in his life with much of positivity around.

Thinking out of the box!

                  One of the biggest problems with we people is that either we are said to think inside some boundaries or else we are said to think out of the box, a thought did occur in my mind about why we should think there is something called as a boundary?

              Why should we only be allowed to think out of the box rather, why not think that there is no box at all?

              During attending the class of strategic management, the rule number one that the professor had said to us was to be odd man out!
I.e. be something different, if everyone is doing a thing, let me do something other, something totally weird or do something which cannot be compared!!





 I feel the thing is, at all stages of our lives, we are compared, something like, am I better than my far related cousin or am I doing better than my colleague or so on.
 
 Problem arises only when you are having a competition, or comparisons.

When you be something or do something where in you are totally un comparable, then you obviously got to win!

Be it in any field this seems to work! 

             Be it the example of exams. If I am answering those questions which all of them answer, there would be surely some sort of comparison! 

              And if your answer is less better than others, obviously you would be given lesser grades! When you answer those questions which no one would even think of answering, then obviously there is no one to compare your answers with!

             The same would apply if I am an employee, if I am doing the work in something so monotonous and in the same way as all are doing, I would obviously be compared, said I am less efficient or so, but by doing the work in some different and better efficient way, both my employer as well as me would in advantage!

Till the time we won’t think in some opposite way, we would be one among the crowd itself,

But the moment we start to think and implement the real different and unique approach! We would be reaching a way different level!

The role of having a correct Belief.

            On this boring weekend, I was looking into some videos which was in my laptop and by chance, got to watch a 5 minute video on the topic ‘Belief’ by TT Rangarajan.

              In our lives, based on the belief we have, we would start to deal with any individual. Irrespective of any relationship or any bonding we have with them, the way we behave totally depends on the belief we have about that individual.

            I’d like to quote an example which was said in that video, "In the great epic Mahabharata, even though Duryodhana, who had immense trust over his friends and wife, was not at all respected as everyone had the belief that he belongs to the “bad side”.

            Whereas in the epic Ramayana, lord Ram, even though had asked queen Seetha to jump into the fire to prove her purity, is seen with immense devotion and respect as the belief towards lord Ram is so much positive.

The belief we have towards anyone makes us judge on the deeds done by that individual!

           I personally had a belief regarding one of my writer friend as a sharp critic,who would criticize without seeing much of the effects, this belief actually blurred my vision regarding her and made me think that everything she says is criticism, which actually were not.

            The bad deeds done by any individual whom we believe to be a good is generalized and slips away as something very bad, whereas good deeds done by any individual who we believe to be bad, would obviously go unnoticed!

           I remember an instance where in all had a notion that one of our classmates as a miser! There was a firm belief in our minds that he would not spend anything irrespective of him earning or having a good amount of money.

             So even when he literally spends money for some good cause of so, there would be a false notion in our minds that he does that in order to derive some future economic benefit and not without any good reasons.

             Ending this with a small quote, again from the video itself, “If the quality of our relationship with almost anything has to improve then the quality of belief in that relationship has to change”.

            We can never have a good relationship with any one when we have a negative belief about them. No matter what, our belief plays a role in dealing anything with an individual.

As soon as our belief towards anyone/anything changes, All other things would change by itself.