crushes! yes or no?

            Every individual have crushes! For few of them it may be the actors acting on the big screens and for few others it might be someone of their class or neighborhood. 

           Crushes are those people who makes you blush! The one who makes your heart skip a beat. Even a small glance of them makes you happy. You forget your worries; you forget what you were doing as soon as you see your crush.

          What we usually tend to forget is the effect which ‘crushes’ can put in our life. We forget what happens to our way of life when we have crushes.

 

          There can be drastic changes in the pattern of our life, we tend to wait for long time for the texts of our crushes, and our moods brighten as soon as we get the replies or we get mood swings when our crush doesn’t reply properly.

         There can be something like an uncommon attachment towards that person, even though you hardly converse with them.

        Psychologists say that crushes last only for 4 months, if it exceeds that time, it usually will be associated with love! Which often turns out to be a one sided love.

          One sided love often turns out to be an utter disappointment as there will always be a negativity complex or the fear of rejection in us.

          We tend to lose the productive part of us if we start to waste our time for the crushes. 

         Even though crushes can help us to be productive in a way such as developing oneself to impress the crush, it often turns out to be a disappointed one, as it’s always advisable to impress ourselves than impressing other person.

So it’s up to you to see how you spend your time! By being productive or by waiting for the reply or smile of your crush!

Why wouldn't the teens become a national bestseller?

              Why wouldn’t the teens out here become a national best seller? I was thinking about this thing from a very long time, many reasons came to my mind, in fact when I first typed this article I had included some age old reasons such as 'parents want their child to study!' They would want their child to become professionals and would make them join coaching classes, ask for marks and for more marks! Uff!

              At the end, when I asked myself does the reason sound justifiable? A big NO popped up instantly. My parents never forced me to study round the clock! And there are so many parents around to whom it would not be fair if I say they would expect things from their kids.

            Then it came to my senses, there are so many other stuffs which kills the creativity within. We are encroached with so much virtual friends on facebook. Instant messengers have made it easier to connect virtually but what we have lost is the essence to connect in person.

            We have come to that point where it’s hard for a kid to have dinner without replying the whatsapp messages, if that is the situation, how can he find time to read good books and write a good one?

           How can a kid write books when he doesn’t even have time to talk to his parents properly? He has to check the constant news feeds, reply to all the pings and many more.

Rule out the idea of writing a book, there is a drastic downfall of in-person contacts among us. 

Isn’t there something like productive use of virtual stuffs? Where we can limit the usage of things which are unproductive? 

             I guess we seriously need one of those ‘something’, that something where the essence of connecting to other person is developed, something where ‘The real’ is preferred over the virtual. Else, hard time is surely awaited in future!

Talk to people whom you find interesting.

              When a person sitting beside you on a bus, is holding a book with some interesting title, you feel curious to ask him about the book but step back thinking that it would be awkward to talk to that stranger.

               Of course it feels awkward! After all, the person is total unknown one, but what if we take a step ahead of that awkwardness? 

              I hardly talked to any of the girls in my schooling. I felt shy to talk to any girl! Something called negativity complex back then. But one fine day, a classmate of mine pinged me on my facebook and we talked casually. We talked about various interesting things; we talked about lots of books when we happen to meet once unexpectedly.  

              I am very much glad that she had pinged and talked to me that day! Had she not talked to me that day I would surely have missed an awesome individual with loads to potential and knowledge.

             I learnt one important thing from her. ‘What’s wrong in talking to different people? There is loads of goodness in every person. It’s for us to recognize them and learn good things from them’.

            I personally am very happy from what I have learnt from her. YES! It does feel awkward to talk to someone unknown for the first time. But when you look back after getting comfortable with that person, you would surely cherish that you started talking to them.

            The world is filled with lots of interesting people who pass across you every moment. Every individual is unique. Each and every one is special in one or the other field. It’s for us to see them and get along with different people.

    If you don’t come out of your awkwardness you are sure to lose lots of interesting people around the world! 

Talk to people whom you find interesting.

 The world is filled with surprises you never know what is waiting for you.

I want to be in relationship with the one who lets me 'Be Myself'

             It’s usually thought that only the girls will be scared to get into relationship. But being a guy I am hell more scared about getting into relationships. I am sure that there are many more guys who think the way I am thinking about the relationships. 

            If you ask me ‘being a guy why the hell are you scared of relationship? If one girl doesn’t match your taste, chuck out and move to another one? Being a guy you can easily switch over.’

             I say I am scared because I might change, I might change the whole of myself only to get attention of an attractive girl and be with her. 

             I would be the one which that girl expects me to be and start to do the things that she likes me to do. I would then buy the things which she like me to buy and wear those outfits which she likes me to wear followed by eating the things that she likes me to eat.

 

            It’s nothing like I am against being in relationship; it’s one of the most blissful things in the world one can experience. It’s like having someone who would love you more than any other person in the world.

            But being in such relationship by which you wouldn’t be yourself and be that someone which is liked by other person isn’t something that gives a long time enjoyment.

             I want to be in such relationship where my girl is happy that I am being myself, I want to be with that girl who feels happy with the things that I like to do. I want to be with that girl who is okay with me eating what I like to eat and be comfortable with what I like to wear. 

             I want to be with someone who likes me for who I am and what I do.  I feel it’s okay to wait for some time for that person rather than rush up and go with someone who doesn’t like the original me.

I feel that’s what being in blissful relationship is? Isn’t it?

Bangalore days.

       

            It was half past 11 at night and I sent a text to a childhood friend of mine who had been to her granny’s place somewhere at kasargod in state of Kerala. Thanking her for the suggestion to watch the movie.

       Okay! the movie was in malyalam. Thanks to the subtitles that I understood each and every word uttered. I wrote this one because a character in the movie totally resembled me.

  It started with a total geek guy Krishnan PP a.k.a kuttan explaining about the childhood and about him getting into Bangalore and join a software company!

          Then came scenes of his pretty cousin Divya prakash marrying a total workaholic guy ‘Das’ who even worked on the night of his honeymoon! Uff.

           And how can I miss their another cousin. The guy who was sharing my name! Arjun. The rider, the cool guy! The guy with bad boy looks which irked all the grown-ups!

          Its a story on how 3 cousins cherished their life by connecting to one another. There was flirting and the romance, the sadness of losing the loved ones and also the happiness of getting back together.

          It portrayed on how, in spite of having a shaky past one can move on with a better life for present and future.

          At the end of the movie I learnt a simple message. “We all are like simple dots in a big sheet of plain paper. It’s for us to connect the dots and enjoy the life”.

‘Bangalore days’……… was the movie.