Consistency is the Key.

            My eyes opened as the clock ticked 9 in the morning!! And the dental appointment was scheduled at 9:45. Rushing out of home on a holiday is such a pain!!

             My dentist is a jovial person, there would usually be rounds of conversation on random things before the actual treatment began. Of course as I am an “Avid Speaker cum Listener” I love the way how conversation flows.

             He started with his own story, to explain me the significance of something called as consistency in anyone’s life, during his internship he worked at a place that paid him the least amount of stipend but, the consistency in the work that he got as an intern made him what he is currently, A Successful Dentist.

               Of course he gave me an insight of how consistency can overcome the biggest of the hurdle in one’s life. How small things can lead to bigger changes in one’s lives.

The question arose asking what actually consistency is.

             In simple words it is doing things without much diverting from it. You can say, doing anything over and over may not be in the same way, but in a way that is better than the common way!

When I looked at all the failures in my life…. what he said made perfect sense. 

 

             Almost all the failures in our lives happen because we lose the consistency in our life, at some point of time we get diverted and also we would start to do things which we shouldn’t be doing in order to avoid the things which we should actually be doing.

            It’s something like; we do not stick to any particular field. Of course there are lots of distraction in our lives, be it the Social Medias or the television or the various applications on the smartphones.

Overcoming which surely is a difficult things but,

        There surely need to be that one thing absolutely necessary to achieve any goal worth having! i.e Being Consistent on things that you do!!

I would like to end with the quote of Aristotle “we are what we repeatedly do; therefore Excellence is not an act but a habit’

Adapting to the Right Changes.

            After a long gap of many months, I started reading the last book of Shiva Trilogy, i.e The Oath of the Vayuputras. Where in a story came about a frog, which went as follows.

              ‘An unknown scientist had conducted some experiment on frogs’ long time ago. He dropped a frog in a pot of boiling water, The Frog immediately jumped out. He then placed a frog in pot full of cold water; the frog settled down comfortably. The scientist then began raising the temperature of the water gradually over period of time. The frog kept adapting to the increasingly warm and then hot water till it finally died, without any attempt to escape’ 

As soon as I read the above extract, it came to my mind about how similar is our situation in this life!

              Like the nature of the frog, when in our life, we come across something like sudden change, be it good or bad we react quite seriously and try to go away from that change. Even though the change may be for our very own good, the intensity of suddenness makes us to revolt and oppose the change.

               Similarly when the change is slow, even if it is like way too much bad for us in longer run, we constantly keep on adapting to that badness in our life. Even when the intensity of badness increases in our life, we try and adapt to it in the faster phase and at one certain point of time when we come to know that the thing is bad, it would be way too late and would be at the last stage.

             The issue of Fake notes feels a very appropriate thing to relate into the above context, slowly and stealthily, small amount of fake currencies came into circulations.  We, instead of stopping this bad change by adopting other mode of transaction like card transactions or by e wallet, started to move that same currency. Our only concern was that it went away from us without losing its value before it moves from our hand……

          I feel it’s the high time for us to start knowing the difference between what is good and what is bad in our life so that we can react and adapt accordingly rather than accept everything that comes with the flow and creeps very slowly in our life without giving us the hint of its badness.

Journey back home.

When a long weekend approaches, not expecting a traffic crunch in Bangalore is utter foolishness. 

            Buses form a long queue where in the cleaner of the bus calls the route numbers allotted to them. The whole of area is filled with lots of heavy honking, creating quite a messy atmosphere.

            Right below the metro station, where the buses have formed a queue, we can notice lots of young guys and girls with their attention deep into cellphones, sitting on platforms and waiting for bus. A pinch of glamour at the stressful nights is surely a pleasant thing to see.

         Few couples bidding good bye, another few of them helping their parents’ board the bus, lots of confusions among passengers and running a race to board the bus are quite a common scene around that time.

         Half asleep kids on the mother's shoulders having the least clue about what's happening around is one adorable thing to watch. Sadly, the mothers’ stress and irritation about the journey is only known to her.

         Amidst the chaos during the traffic jam, and all the ups and downs outside, there are many moments that catch our eyes and make us absorb new things which we had never experienced.

        Once all goodbyes are done and bus has been boarded the Silent journey begins with quite a lots of feeling in heart about heading back to one’s hometown ……. thus begins everyone’s Journey back home.

Life is too short to be busy.

           From the time I developed the fondness for reading, I was kind of fascinated to read random things, either from the books or blog posts which I would get when I would stroll over the internet. 

           While Living in Bangalore, I do get to hear from lots of them that they would be busy and occupied with all sort of work; pick any category of individuals the level of busyness would never come down.

We individuals have somewhat become like a ‘To do List’ now a days. Where in every weekend we plan our schedule regarding what should be done the next week.

Even to meet up some of our friends or a cousin we should actually check our schedule and plan the meeting accordingly.

         Supposedly even the meet up happens, then, there is a condition for that too, it should end as per the scheduled time as well, and else the items that are scheduled after the meet will get totally messed up.

           We have become so busy in here preparing the schedules and then following and implementing the prepared schedule that we somehow have forgotten the essence of doing things that are totally unscheduled.

It does feel as if we have lost that charm of ‘Expecting the unexpected’.

          There are lots and lots of things that are to be done out of your regular schedules. There are vibes inside us that would guide us to do certain things.

          Well, when a bright thought goes through you to write an article or do something that makes you feel really good, you can’t and never should say to yourself that ‘as of now I am busy, I will schedule that when I find time to do my schedule’

Life is too short to be busy

And yes, not everything that you need to do should be on the schedule. Unscheduled things surely give its own share of happiness.

The art of Prioritizing the right things.

This time I would like to narrate a story that was heard in my class.

               A guy had texted my sir saying the following: There were 3 of them working in a firm, him, a girl and a guy who is her good friend. 

           The girl proposed him; they fell in love and were in relationships. For quite some time ... eventually as time passed, she distanced from him for some reasons and used to hide things from him and get closer to that good friend. Two days before CA final exam of that guy. She dumped him and they broke up. Obviously that guy was in total dilemma over this and because of this he didn't clear his exams and flunked quite a few time 

                 The thing to get conveyed is, any sensible person wouldn't take such decisions of dumping when a priority item or major and important task to that person is coming near and the thing to learn is. Yes! Relationships are awesome, when? Only when the other one help you and support you to achieve the purpose of life ... not just hurt or be a negative impact on you.

The second story of the post is as below

              There was one guy, from Gujarat who actually is my sir’s friend. He was from quite low background, i.e his dad was earning around six thousand rupees a month by working in a garment shop, His father did everything for making his son study. The dad was going on bus, but let the guy use 2wheeler for his son, the money for the studies of the guy came as a loan from the cloth shop owner where the dad worked. 

This is a typical lower middle class family’s story, so it’s pretty evident that the guy had to pass all the exams.

            The expectations were quite high on the guy, which is quite obvious, the thing is he fell in love with a girl of basically other caste and as he was quite orthodox family, it was like quite more of compulsion on the family part that he shouldn’t do the inter caste marriage, the actual issue of his love came to light to the parents at around 3 to 4 months ago when the guy had to give his final exams of CA when one of the guy’s relative had seen the guy with the girl.

                  Sir was one among his friends who was called to his home and this was things he witnessed, the mom of the guy suddenly declared she would commit suicide if the guy marries that other caste girl, another thing was by his sister who said she would take the parents and he needn’t do anything, somehow sir and other friends consoled for like 4 or 5 hours and brought peace in there.

               The problem was from the next day, the guy wasn’t able to see his moms face thinking that for this small issue his mom does these things and the mom couldn’t even see sons face because even after doing so much for the son, he isn’t living their expectations

             All this took place when the guy had just few months for giving his exam, the good thing was everyone in the family understood that if he was in home, he would neither pass nor have peace so his mom then approached my sir and their friend ... and said please take that guy with them at apartment where my sir was staying. For 3 full months, sir and his friends were given strict instructions that anyone would accompany that guy wherever he goes 3 months passed, for whole of the time the friends studied with full dedication in between, as my sir had some issues with eyes, and had to put up some drops, he would go to guy and after drops he had to shut his eyes and sleep for 10 mines wherein sir would constantly say to that guy that you have to pass this exam, the purpose of you is to lead a decent life, and he had to be well settled and so on. 

Lots of positive words, 3 times a day for 3 months

The exam days came, all gave exams, all cleared.

            Currently the guy is earning very well. leading a good life,  living in a joint family with parents, and is ...... still married to the same girl!! That he had liked.

The things that I was conveyed and that I wanted to convey through these stories are

1) There is no harm in being in relationship, but the relationship should have only and only positive effect on us.

2) Though we may have small fights now, it would obviously lead to bigger one if we are with the wrong person.

3) Distractions are very common thing! But going out of the track where in we forget our purpose in life, is a bad things, be with them who would motivate us to fulfill our purpose in life and not who would waste our meaning of life.

           Supposedly in first small story, the girl had waited for few weeks, and then dumped the guy, he would at least had cleared his exams and had settled!! Now he is neither having good paying job nor the girl because of selecting and prioritizing wrong thing in his life.

            Similarly in second longer story, had the guy not worked in the last 3 months of his time towards exams and just grumbled and failed?? He would obviously be blaming his mom, his girlfriend and there would had been so much negativity towards him,

Just by changing the priority he really became something in his life with much of positivity around.