Actions are more important than mere plans - A guest post by me

I Had done a guest post on a friend’s blog.

The original post was done in the link given below

http://yesiamv.blogspot.in/2015/03/actions-are-more-important-than-mere.html

Here is the copy of the same article.

Actions are more important than mere plans

          Hello guys this is Arjun Bhat of xpresstoimpress.blogspot.in doing a guest post in my friend vaishnavi’s blog.

          In life we tend to have a big ‘to do list’, everyone aspires to become something which is most attached to them, they want to become something thinking that it would give them immense happiness.

          At a very young age, the list consists of many crazy things, which would give a thrill in doing it, but as years pass, the list gets refined, we eliminate things that seem ridiculous and only achievable stuffs are left back.

          In many cases, after a certain time, the whole of the list gets replaced by routines. We tend to give up what we wanted to be in the past.

          If we ask the question, why has it happened? The answer is simple, we just made the ‘to do lists’ but didn’t take any proper supporting actions to fulfill the needs which was expected for the items there.

We take too long to plans stuffs.

          If we want to get a good physique, we think a lot about the gym, the equipment there, the food habit, the great body which we would want to build and the plans go on, what we fail to do is: start exercising, which is the most basic step here.

         Similar things keep on happening that alters our ‘to do list’ easily, what we have to start is, to take action more swiftly than just keep on planning.

         The journey to any destination starts with a step; it is for us to focus more on the starting of any task rather than focusing on ending it.

Only the thing that has begun comes to an end! How can things end without even beginning it?

Wishes

I wish I was a bird that could just fly around every time

I wish I was a butterfly who could just showoff its bright colors

I wish I was a cat and sit calmly at a corner of the house

I wish I was a lion who would majestically rule the jungle

I wish I was a snake who could just scare almost all

I wish I was at least a dog and wander everywhere and still remain cheerful

Uff and alas. I am a human.

 With full of emotions and feelings

Yes with those feelings that you can’t avoid

Yes with those feelings that hurts you without any reason.

And yes the feelings that only humans can understand.

Prioritize Yourself

           For each and every individual there are people in this world to whom they value more than themselves. They may be their parents, siblings, spouses, children or anyone else.

Happiness of the other individual is always given priority.

          A mom, in spite of her work and stress, each time prioritizes her children. She never says a no for the demands made by her kids. Her sacrifice cannot be compared to anything. A father too works day and night in order to get his kids a good standard of living, education and everything else.

           Without the proper support of the wife, even the best husband fails to flourish. A wife sacrifices her dreams and supports her husband unconditionally without expecting anything in return. She would be happy just to see a smile of accomplishment in her husband’s face.

         An elder sister starts to work part time during her college so that her younger brother can easily pay his school fee and concentrate on his academics.

           A young engineer who was posted for work at the foreign country skips his breakfast and other expenses so that he could send some extra money to his parents, who have toiled all their lives to give him a good education.

There are so many examples where other people are given more priority.

          Priorities for other close ones are stressed to that extent that after certain time, we fail to recognize ourselves. It would be considered as a duty to give priority to others and when the priority is diminished, it would be considered as something offending.

          No offence in giving priorities to others. But what’s the use of giving so much priority to another one where our own individuality would come to a nil?

          We must learn to value ourselves too, If not full priorities, we must at least keep a pinch of priority to ourselves.

After all, we too are someone important in this huge world.

Habits play a major role

          Habits play a significant role in everyone’s life. Many a times the habits define what we actually are.

           Few of the habits are inculcated by the way we are brought up like the habit of being a vegetarian and majority of them are adapted as and when the situation comes.

           Usually we think our habits have effect only on us. But the impacts of our habits are far wider than we can imagine. Few simple things such as a habit of choosing a soap can have a great impact on the country’s economy.

            Another significant habit is of using the water. This was an abundant resource in past and a very scarce one at present. Our way of brushing, bathing and cleaning etc. can determine how much resources are wasted; few simple changes in way of life can save a lot.

The lists of habit are endless. Each and every habit plays different role all the time. We just fail to analyze them closely.

            I feel habits can be divided into 2 types, one type where habits become positive support to you and the outside world and second type are those habits which become negative support to you and the outside world.

          The good things about habits are, we can change them. As soon as we understand that the habits are having negative impact on us. We need to try our best to change them and go with positive habits.

Why to go with bad habits? When there are so much of good ones out here?

Food and Relationship

           In this huge world with 7 billion people, it sounds easy to find a good opposite one! But practically, finding that compatible one isn’t as easy as it sounds!

          Usually it is presumed that, with the compatible one, everything is so much perfect, but few small things, at times create a lot of glitches.

Something such as the food habit of individual can be a significant thing in relationships.

         In a perfectly compatible relationship, food habits seem like an unimportant thing. If both of them share a same pattern of food habits I too agree with the point. What if the food habits differ? What if one is from a pure vegetarian upbringing? And other is not?

Would it still make the difference?

          It surely would. A vegetarian will surely feel uncomfortable when their closest one dines meat on their next seat.

          Similarly it would still be unpleasant for the non-veggies when their other half restricts them from having their favorite cuisine.

         Sacrificing our food habits and living on partner’s choice would surely work out at the pleasant times but it would surely be a problem when the times are hard.

         I feel it’s always better to choose the compatible partner who respects our food choice and we better respect theirs too. Because when we have come together in spite of many difficulties, food must never be the reason to break apart.

 After all we eat to live. And not live to eat.

Let critics make us a better and improved person.

           Critics are found everywhere! It’s very common for many to criticize us for the wrong things we have done. At times even for the right things we get criticisms, which would make us feel negative about ourselves.

 

             Criticisms are usually harsh. Its tendency of everyone to expect to hear good things about themselves and when someone points out the negative aspect of them, they feel offended. Something like getting kicked out.

             Many a times, critics may point out how bad we were at doing something, for example things such as dancing or singing. They would show us the people who are better to us. They may even say how much boring we are in our life.

              Often this type of common criticisms leads to dropping of our motivation to do things. We lose our hope on succeeding when we get sharp criticisms. 

           What we forget is, only if we get criticisms, it is known that we are working and are not idle. They are the indicators that we are doing something.

           Criticisms should always make us an improved and better person, not a weak a subtle one.

           It’s always best to take criticisms positively something as a support to achieve our goal and not as something that hinders our growth.

 Let critics make us a better and improved person.