The effect of feeling good.

Everyone wants to feel good at almost all the time in their life.

           For all, the ‘feeling good’ plays a major role in most of the decisions they make. Their approach changes or way of talking changes and many times the way they respond significantly changes when they feel good. 

           Feeling good is much closely related to deriving that essence of happiness by doing something that makes us happy, or we can say it like doing things that relieves us from the sadness.

         The problem with ‘Feeling good’ is, it may only feel good and not be something literally good for us mentally, physically or emotionally.

         I would like to say about a close one of mine who had this thing of feeling good when she ate chocolates or something sweet.

       There would be an irresistible craving and mood swing if something sweet isn’t consumed! Of course after having the sugary content she may feel good, but is it literally good for her? 

         Similarly one may feel good by riding the 2 wheeler at a great speed, but a question surely arises in a sensible mind that, by the desire to feel good aren’t we just compromising our safety?

       We have become obsessed with the idea of feeling good that, for feeling good we are literally are spoiling ourselves in different ways.

       Few of us even get addicted to some of not so cool things, only to get the good feeling. 

      It’s a high time for us to start to analyze on the things that makes us feel good.

        Things that may seem good may actually be something very bad to you that may hinder you both physically as well as emotionally.

The good needn’t always be good, it can even be worse too!

Glimpses from her eyes.

            She looked dull and behind that evergreen cute smile, her face showed the clear cut exhaustion. It was her final year at the college.

           At that particular time when all of them were enjoying the events, there she was at the corner of the stage organizing the programs and helping the other organizers to run the functions smoothly.

         Food was the thing that she had just once a day! Rest of the times all she could rely upon were the juices from the tetra packs.

        Skinny she was from quite a long time but had with her the enthusiasm which was quite hard to be seen among others.

She was quite matchless when it came to the dedication!

           It quite saddened her that even her best of friends had plenty time to change their attires 3 times a day! And post pictures on Facebook for unlimited times but not bothered to ask her even if she had a proper food.

          By shedding tears from past 2 days her eyes had dried, still she was glad that no one had noticed that. But one thing had been clear in her mind that now she knew who should be relied on and who should be kicked out.

Soon the morning turned noon and then came the night, 

 

          With the same enthusiasm, positive energy and now filled with wisdom, she was leaving the negativity behind her back, which clearly showed that she was back on track.

Not always life goes on with assumptions.

             I am that kind of person who thinks a bit extra for each and every situation!

             Before doing anything we would very well analyze the consequence of doing it. Something like, what would happen if we speak in certain manner with elderly people or what will be consequence if I go and behave rudely with an arrogant bus conductor or something like the idea of complimenting a good looking lady!

         There would be countless situations in our lives wherein we just go on assuming the consequences or the responses from other sides!

            Be it something very much positive thing such as planting few sapling and nurturing it, we assume that we won’t be having time to look after it so, let us not plant any! 

            Or supposedly when a girl/guy pings you and says “If you feel like speaking to me please do text or call me” We start to assume lots of hidden possibilities with that sentence! 

               Assumption may range from the person liking you or having a best friend who may be interested in you or so on…. In reality that girl/guy might just want to talk to you and nothing else! May be just wanted to have a meaningful conversation!!

Assumptions make us overthink!

            Many a times we start to think on those items which hinder our productivity! Our minds will be occupied by useless stuffs which simply waste our time and spoil our mood! 

           Rather than go on assuming things, why not we bring the plan into action! And overthink later on?

Not always life goes on with assumptions!

 

              Sometimes we just have to let things happen, because there are many things in life that would possibly happen much more wonderfully than what we can assume it to happen!

Support from the other half.

         There has been a rapid and substantial progress in the percentage of ‘Earners’ in our country. Several of reasons have backed for this rapid progress. Right from focus on education to training people on skill development and so on. 

If you are thinking like... Is it a bad thing? Absolutely not!

The individuals are being well educated and are into well paid/earning fields. Of course while marrying or living in with each other the basic criteria seen would be of financial security and education along with a pinch of something called as ‘love’.

           I watched the movie Ki and ka today. It did seem funny at the beginning where in the male of the house takes the job of running the home and female goes for the earning! 

          Of course our way of thinking has progressed a lot because in the past a female who would earn were quite less in number and now there are lots of women who earn well and are independent and we have proudly accepted it.

         Okay… all of the above are just facts! Which you would obviously know! 

         Hitting on the point that I had to convey, would it be comfortable if the other half of us starts to prosper? Prosper in a very great scale?

Right from being totally dependent towards super popular role model? 

          I feel we have developed that bad mentality where in it would be very hard for us to break the fact that ‘Anyone who is dependent on us can become totally independent and prosper’

            Everyone is filled with awesomely great amount of potential and it would take a pinch of extra time for them to set their passion on track.

           It is for us to be the one who supports the dependent in spreading out their wings by kicking out our ego and help them move towards the path of success rather than feel jealous/insecure about them and cut off their wings!

After all, without the support given by our other half!

We would be nothing but just ‘The half!’

Leading a life

          After a long time I went to my place and of course it was quite a pleasant feeling to be back home!

           While casually talking to my family, they mentioned things about one of my batch mate, saying he and his mom had come over to shops to sell the products that they had manufactured.

          While talking about my batch mate his mom had said it like ‘I don’t feel bad that my son is not a good scorer in the academics, I won’t let that be a disadvantage to him, rather I would teach him the things I know i.e the art of selling, by which he can lead a life.

          She even added, what is the use scoring marks and getting some average jobs at big towns and cities that you don’t deserve ?

           You work monotonously for some minimal salary where in you are not able to save money as well as have the peace of mind?

 ‘How true her words were’ was the thought that came into my mind.

          Of all people I know it usually is the case where in the approach of any parent would be to make their child study the general academic course.

           Be it any field, the technical or non-technical, much of the focus would be on giving the set of education to the child as per the syllabus.

             I feel the chances of that education helping an individual for leading a life comes to a bare minimum.

          Instead of just pressurizing to cover up the syllabus and go to job that gives you some pay, why not in addition to covering up the studies we teach our child how to lead a life!

           Some things like, when few job doesn’t work out, the child must not be frustrated for not finding another one, rather he must be able to earn a decent living and lead a good life.

            Instead of being unhappy all time for being underemployed. He should be taught to do things that give him some control over his life.

        I feel the day when the parent teaches the child those things that help the child lead a decent life rather than just be better in a rat race would be the day that is best for both parent as well as the child.