Accomplishment and Growth.

It’s filled in each of ours mind to achieve things in life.

        We feel we would get a great amount of satisfaction when we accomplish certain things. For that we say ourselves to work harder and harder so that we accomplish our desired goal in our life.

       For lots of people, accomplishment is like getting a rank one at certain field. It makes them think that’s the top most position available to anyone and they must have it, and they think they would be the supreme at that field.

        The sad part is, positions change very quickly, often when we reach the top, the level of our dedication may lower or someone else’s dedication may rise. And a defeat when we are at the top always leaves us devastated.

        Something like if I am the best player of table tennis in my college i.e. the supreme position, I would obviously get the feeling as I have accomplished the best spot available. As the time passes, when someone else beats me in the game, I will be broken. It’s like someone less competent has gone over me. It feels something as shame inside us.

        But in case we follow the ‘Satisfaction through Growth’ factor rather than following ‘Satisfaction by Accomplishment’ factor, it would be lesser burden even when we fail during a position when we are at the top

         If we get the mentality of being better than what we were yesterday, i.e. growing ourselves rather than competing for the positions, I feel any rise or any fall in so called positions wouldn’t be much of a problem. Because every day is a sort of victory feeling to us, as for sure we are better than what we were yesterday.

Instead of aspiring or clinging on with the position, let us try to grow and be better every day at what we do.

Why should a position matter when we know we are growing each and every day without anyone stopping us.

The one percent rule.

James Altucher’s article on one percent rule is surely a great work.

Good habits are not an easy thing to acquire, so are bad habits.

        To practice any habit it requires a constant devotion from our end. The habit would start from nothing till it develops to something of great significance in our life.

         We want the habits to develop very quickly. Small and slow are something unrecognizable to us. It seems nothing has changed if we do a bit by bit constantly every day.

         Of course nothing can be achieved overnight. But to be good at something, we need to do at least some minimum amount of change in our life. Such as improving at least one percent a day? 

        

         If we go on becoming better at something one percent a day for a full year we surely are thirty seven times better than what we were a year ago. Similarly if we start to go bad or degrade one percent a day, in a year we are almost zero.

        Why not inculcate at improving just one percent a day? So that you would not even know that change has happened in your lifestyle.

        Devoting one percent of your total time in a day (24*60= 1440 minutes you have in a day, 1% being 14.4 minutes) to something productive. Something like a mere fifteen minutes a day to be better? 

        A fifteen minutes a day to read a good book! Or drawing one sketch of your choice in that short time or playing a game of your choice with a mindset of excelling at it! Any small things with just one percent of your time!

And reversing not healthy stuffs by doing one percent less of it!

       Some simple things such as wasting one percent less time on social networks scrolling news feed or eating one percent less of junk food a day! Within a year your bad habits would be at a zero.

       When we get the desire to be better, implementing the one percent rule would surely help. Neither our mind nor our body opposes the almost unknown change that we plan, 

The one percent change.

Being Unapologetic.

         

         Apologizing for the mistakes done is one of the best gestures of politeness. This very often is given less and less importance in today’s days.

         Many a times we apologize. Not because we have made any mistakes but because we feel the other one is uncomfortable of us doing anything.

         I personally used to apologize for the smallest of dis comfortableness the opposite one felt. I thought it was part of being polite.

 Yes it’s absolutely necessary to admit the mistakes that we have done and apologize for that, but we at times to preserve the politeness, bend more than it is actually necessary and very often this is being misused by the opposite one.

 Its better we stop the earliest apologizing for the person we are. If the other person feels dis comfort for the way we are it’s their problem and not ours!

         Why lose our self-esteem for the mistakes that we never committed? Why should we let ourselves get cheap for others discomfort? It’s a good time we start to value ourselves more and be happy.

 I feel it’s okay to be called rude all the time than lose our own identity.

Being Happy.

          I often ask people with whom I am comfortable about their aims and few morals or principles that they follow in their life.

          When I was texting an old classmate of mine, I asked her what was the principle that she followed and admired the most; to which she said ‘Being happy with what I have rather than keep longing for more’

         I felt, it surely was a fabulous thought; very few people in this world would be content with what they actually have and not want something more to be happy.

          Each one of us has desires deep inside us, it may be either to make money or own a big house or a branded car or for the matter of fact any of those expensive or cool stuffs.

          The desire may even turn out to be few inexpensive things like scoring the highest marks in the examination or winning at some sports meet or so.

         We often give out our hundred percent to achieve or fulfill our desires, we toil days and nights together for the fulfillment. In spite of that we may actually not reach the extent that we had thought.

         We may turn out to be the second best in the exam or sports or we could only afford a little bit smaller house or buy something less expensive.

         When that happens we would obviously be hurt, and feel there isn’t happiness in not having the best of the things.

But what we fail to realize is the happiness totally lies in us, it lies in how we see and take the things.

         It’s one of the best feelings in the world when we feel satisfied and are happy with what we have achieved and with the things that we have; there wouldn’t be any bad feeling on not getting the best.

I would like to  conclude the article by quoting the lines that I had once read about being happy with the things that we have. 

 “I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet”

The essence of Promise.

         Robin Sharma is a very well-known self-help writer. In one of his book he had spoken about keeping the promises made to others.

         We as a person make lots of promises to a number of individuals who come into our life.

         Promises that are as big as getting them an expensive vehicles or as small as spending an evening with them.

         With the busy and tight schedules of ours, the memories of unimportant issues which are to be fulfilled are often neglected.

I feel the broken promises won’t be a matter of great significance when the one whom you promise is similarly as busy as you, but as and when the person to whom you made promise values it significantly, there will be a small black spot for you inside their heart.

There would always arise a question asking are small promises really necessary to be fulfilled?

           I would say of course yes! Promises are promises no matter whether they are small or big. It doesn’t really matter if promises are significant or insignificant to you.

           If you know it in advance that the smallest of small promise cannot be fulfilled, it would really be better to say it to that person about not able to fulfill. In fact it would be better to avoid making those promises which is hard to deliver.

           The way how other persons look at you changes completely as and when you tend to fulfill the promises you do. A significant amount of goodwill is seen in you when you do not break the promises.

           The relationships surely become stronger and stronger as and when the promised things are delivered without glitches.

           Why break promises and break the heart? Instead promise only stuffs which can be fulfilled! The positive result is sure to be seen soon.

Learning about yourself.

       

            Learning is one of the most important processes that never ends. We can learn from everything and about everything.

           From a very tender age we start to learn various things, right from crawling and eating as kids to driving a car or flying a plane as we grow up. We keep on learning.

           We learn alphabets, poems, stories and many more things when we are at schools. Then we choose subjects to learn as we grow up and go to college.

          We learn things which our parents or friends have advised us. We also learn extra things that our teachers recommend. We learn few more things so that it makes us different than others at large, technically which makes us better than others.

 At times we learn few things which we won’t even know why we have learnt it. We think it might come to use someday.

          I feel in the conquest of learning many more things to be better than others or so, we tend forget to start learning about ourselves.

I feel we don’t even know what it actually is to learn about ourselves.

       Few of the basic things such as our physical, mental or social needs are forgotten to be learnt by us in the tight schedule of learning everything else.

        We forget to learn about our very own body unless or otherwise it’s a necessity or too late. Something like understanding our physical strength or capability is not at all a fact of concern to us.

          We even fail to understand and learn about our mind, its necessities and improvements. Few simple things such as what makes us feel good! Or what helps to lift our bad mood! Is hardly given time to understand.

A question would surely arise in our mind at end asking what is the use of learning so much of others when you have failed to learn completely about yourself?

Is it worth it?

Purpose makes a difference.

        When I was having a conversation with a close one of mine, he pointed me out the importance of having a purpose in one’s life.

        We all do many a thing in our life. Very often knowing what we do and sometimes not knowing what we have done.

Anything that’s done without purpose will surely seem meaningless at some point of time.

         Many times it feels utter hopeless when we go on doing something and at the end we don’t even know why we were doing that. Something small example such as opting for a course recommended by someone who feels it as great and you don’t even have a clue why you had opted that for.

For almost everything purposes are of great significance.

        Be it anything at any field, if purpose is clearly defined, it would be very successful without doubt.

         When someone starts out a business with a well-defined purpose of either making profits or providing good service or for the matter of fact anything, he would flourish well than someone who has started business without any defined purpose.

         I believe Purpose comes in every small and big thing that we do. The ‘studying daily’ is for the purpose of getting a good score or improving knowledge. Exercising for a certain amount of time has its own purpose for every individual.

         Reading different kind of books may have purpose of improving vocabulary to one and it may have the purpose of entertainment to other or both to yet another individual.

        When you become aware of the purpose of the things that you do, there lies a very clear picture about what’s going to happen. There lies a meaning in what you do.

        So basically when you finish it you would be happy as well as satisfied that the purpose is achieved rather than be clueless on what was being done.

After all, the purpose of this article was to show the significance of having purpose.